When you work so hard all day, the last thing you think about at night is SEX. But research shows that having sex 3-4 times a week can actually help you stay in your relationship longer and happier. Lets also not forget the "day after" glow that no amount of make-up could every duplicate. Kimberly Smith, owner of Strip Xpertease, shows us how a few moves in the bedroom, will get things MOVIN' in bed that night!

Interview with Kimberly Smith

Sherrina:   Welcome back to New York Mother.com.  I’m Sherrina.  Today I am thrilled to be sitting with Kimberly Smith from Strip Expertise.  Kimberly, thank you so much for joining us today.

Kimberly: Thank you for having me.

Sherrina:  I think this is wonderful for New York moms.  You give birth to a child, and you feel like the least sexy person in the world.  I think your services are phenomenal.  Tell us about Strip Xpertise.

Kimberly:  The main goal of Strip Xpertise is to help women feel sexy.  We do that through teaching them the art of exotic dance or strip tease.  We have several different levels of classes, and we take all kinds of women.  You don’t have to be young, fit, and totally in shape.  We’ve had women as old as 60 come into our classes.  We start everyone out with the basic moves class, and then you can progress if you wish.  We do bachelorette parties, birthday parties, divorce parties, and shopping tours.  We’re adding pleasure parties.

Sherrina:  Tell me a little about the shopping tour.  What is that like?

Kimberly:  Our shopping tour is called “Shop and Strip.” 

Sherrina:  Two of our favorite things!

Kimberly: I have met so many women who don’t know what to wear during their striptease or who have never been into a lingerie store, which surprised me.  They are too afraid or intimidated.

Sherrina:  We’re not talking about Victoria’s Secret here.

Kimberly:  No, we’re talking about some high-end stores that are very unique.  We also go to an adult store for toys.

Sherrina:  I love toys!

Kimberly:  We do to!  We take women on a tour of a couple of stores in SoHo and let them have some time to shop, try on things, and see what they like.  We then finish with the strip class back at the studio.  We have a little time to shop and a little time to strip.

Sherrina:  Shopping and stripping.  Something my husband would like and I would like, too.  What else could I ask for?

Kimberly:  Exactly.

Tell me a little about the classes you do.  Do the women have to come to the studio, or do you go to them?

Kimberly:  We have two options.  As I said, we start with basic moves, and you can take that class in the studio or in your home.  It is completely up to you.  It’s whatever you feel most comfortable with.  We always recommend the studio setting, because there are large mirrors and you don’t have the distractions of home, especially with children around.  It’s kind of hard to feel sexy when you see a pacifier lying on the table.  There are no distractions at the studio.   The class starts off with some standing moves, including a walk and an entrance.  We then go to some lap dance moves and finish with some stripping moves.  A lot of women get down to the stripping part and don’t know how to take off a bra in a sexy manner.  They don’t know how to remove their top without looking like they are ‘skinning a rabbit,’ as my grandfather used to say, with their arms in the area. 

We go through a whole routine, and they also receive a cheat sheet at the end of class that goes over everything we have learned.  They can take it home, because I know there is such a thing as ‘mom brain,’ where you forget everything.  They can refer to it later, make notes, and use it to practice and become better.

Sherrina:   This is a phenomenal idea.  Where did this brain child come from?

Kimberly:I moved to New York to pursue acting.  I was doing jobs here and there, and I saw the whole cardio striptease explosion happening.  I thought a lot of women were kind of using it as a front.  They were going to the gym and taking the cardio striptease class and getting in shape.  That’s a good thing, but they really wanted to learn how to strip.  I started watching a few of these classes and videos tapes and realized that they were kind of missing the idea of what a striptease is.  The classes were very fast and hard core, and strippers move very slow.  It’s very slow and seductive. 

I thought, “Let’s skip the cardio part.  Let’s go straight to the striptease and teach women what they really want to learn: the slow, seductive striptease.  It really is the art of seduction.  It is more about seducing the person you are dancing for than the moves themselves.  We developed a curriculum and started teaching.

Sherrina:   This stemmed from your experience as a stripper in a club.  Tell me a little about those days.

Kimberly:  Those days were not always pleasant.  I started stripping when I was 18, and I danced for a very long time—almost 10 years.  The experience wasn’t all roses and peaches.  It is very hard to work in a strip club.  You deal with a lot of bad things.  The money is good, but it gets to the point where you get adjusted to the money and then you start hating your job.  It is a really hard job.  A lot of people think that it is an easy way to make money.  In reality, it is extremely difficult because of what you have to deal with, with the men that you encounter.  You are part therapist, part girlfriend, part whore, in a sense, and you are an entertainer.  You have to combine all those things, and it is hard. 

I spent all those years getting out of the business and then going back in, and I didn’t want all those years to go to waste.  I created Strip Xpertise so I could and give what I learned in the club to women and not have it be a wasted time of my life, to try to turn it around and do something good with it. 

I think the actual form and movement of striptease is very empowering.  It does build you up and make you feel empowered and strong.  I think that’s why women get into the business of striptease.  They think, “Oh, wow, not only am I going to make a lot of money but I’m to take charge of my sexuality.”  That business starts to take it away after awhile.

Sherrina:   I think you have done a great job of turning something that wasn’t always positive into something that is fabulous.  Tell me about the feedback you get from women in your class.

Kimberly:  It’s amazing.  It makes me realize why I am doing this.  A lot of women say it has transformed them.  I have a lot of mothers that take my class and they tell me is nice to come out of the role of being a mom into being that sexy creature that they know they used to be back in the day.  The sexy woman is still there, but you have hidden her and have to bring her back out.  I’ve had women cry in my classes because they were so moved by the transformation they have made.  A lot of women say they have found confidence that they forgot they had.  A lot of women just have a good time.  They laugh until tears come.  Different women get different things.   It really changes some women, and some women just come in to have a good time and then go back to their lives.  It depends on what you want out of the class.

Sherrina:  Have you heard from any men whose wives, girlfriends, or fiances have taken the class?

Kimberly:  I haven’t actually heard from the men, but I have heard what the women who have told me what the men have said.

Sherrina:  What have you heard?

Kimberly:  Thank you!

Sherrina:  So it kind of translates into the bedroom, I’m hoping!

Kimberly:  Yes.  I also do a couples class, so I have gotten feedback right away from the men who have taken it.

Sherrina:  What is your couple’s class like?

Kimberly:  It is pretty steamy.  Sometimes I have to remind them that I am still there!  We do it in the studio.  It is kind of hard to learn lap dance moves without another person.  We do a lap dance section in the class with just a chair, but without having another person there it is difficult to get the idea of what you are doing.  In the couples class, you bring in your husband, boyfriend, or girlfriend—we do lesbian couple classes, as well—and you actually learn on your partner.  It becomes very intimate.  In the beginning, the man and woman are a little nervous, and at the end they are really connecting.  It’s a very sexy class.

Sherrina:  It sounds like a good way to reconnect with your significant other, whoever he or she may be.  That’s great.  I’m going to ask you today to teach me and our viewers a few moves.  Ladies, take this back home and make sure you practice on your significant other.  Get out the pen and paper.

Kimberly:  Let’s go.

Sherrina:  Kimberly, I have my stripper shoes on.   They are kind of my ‘Dorothy went bad’ pair, and I see you have yours.  I am ready to learn stripping, and I am all yours.  Tell me what I need to do.

Kimberly:  The first move we are going to do is from our basic moves class.  This is a lap dance move called the bone crusher.  It is for all the moms that actually have someone to perform for—a husband, boyfriend, girlfriend…

Sherrina: Or if you want to make some money on the side!

Kimberly: No-no!  Imagine that your person is sitting in a position like this (sitting back in the chair, slouched with legs spread). 

Sherrina:  That’s what my husband does every day anyway, so this will be easy for him!

Kimberly:  There you go.  You will be standing in front of them in this little triangle space they have created with their legs, and you are going to start swiveling down and you will land with your butt cheeks right on top of their crotch.  The idea is to make contact with them with some part of your body, excluding your hands and your face the entire time.  We’re doing ‘dirty’ lap dances here.

Hold on to the arms of the chair and start swiveling down until you make contact.  Once you make contact, we call this the bone crush. We’re dancing in a dirty club here, not one of those clean clubs.  Come all the way down.  Then we are going to make little circles here.  It’s kind of like a grinding motion.  It should feel good for you and him, right?

Sherrina:  I don’t know if I could feel anything but my legs, though!

Kimberly:  It takes a little strength.  We’re going to kick it up a notch.  The reason to do a lap dance is that men are very visual.  We women get turned on a little differently than men do.  You are adding some visualization where he is behind you and he is thinking, “This is kind of not a sexual position,” right?  So we will kick it up a little to make it look a little more like a sexual position.  Holding on to the arms of the chair, move forward and back.  You want to keep in contact with the chair so you can get an idea of what it would feel like to do it with a person.  That’s good. You’ve even got a sexy face there!

Sherrina:  That’s pain! 

Kimberly:  It’s not that hard, is it?

Sherrina:  No, it’s really not that hard.  It’s actually a good workout for your arms because you work your biceps.

Kimberly:  Yes, and also we do a workout class and cover a lot of things that help you be able to do the striptease moves better.  In the actual striptease, you don’t want to get sweaty.  You don’t want it to be a workout.  Strippers don’t sweat.  They stay nice and dry and cool.

Sherrina:  And smell nice all the time.

Kimberly:  Here is the last move of the bone crusher.  In case he is a little bit lower, you will want to go a little bit lower, as well.  Make some small circles and then move back up.  You can always look back at him to see how he is doing while you are doing the moves.  Make some eye contact.  That is the bone crusher.

Sherrina:  Don’t crush any bones, ladies. It is not only a good workout, but I think that because they are looking at the back of your head, they can imagine.

Kimberly:  You can also do a little pulling or tugging on your underwear and show a little skin.  There is so much you can do with this dance.

Sherrina:  We’re going to have to take your class to learn more about that.  You said there is another move where you don’t need a partner, that it just for you.

Kimberly:  Correct.  Let’s move on to that one.  This is a little naughty move that you can do.  We call it the ‘rear finger slide.’  If you are dancing for a man or another woman, a lot of people like to watch other people touch themselves.  It is very erotic, very sexy.  There is a special way to stand.  Keeping your back arched, your knees locked, and your chest out, bend forward and send the right hand all the way back and let the finger touch right in the middle at the tailbone.  Keeping the back arched, stand back up.  You would then go back into your swivel move.  How did that feel?

Sherrina:  I think I need a cigarette!

Kimberly:  You did really well.

Sherrina:  Thank you so much, Kimberly.  You have been phenomenal.  Viewers, make sure you log on to www.stripxpertise.com.  Thank you so much for joining us today and learning more about your spirit.  I’m Sherrina Navani.